Cindy Morris, Clinical Director
As a child of immigrant parents, I learned early to be independent. Not only did I learn to be resourceful out of necessity, I was taught specifically to be self-sufficient. My mother would tell me, “You don’t want to have to depend on anyone—you just never know.” While in theory, this made good sense in my child’s mind—and ultimately my adult mind—it never really worked in practice. For one, close relationships are very important to me. Two, I care deeply for people. And three, it’s fun to engage in interdependent and collaborative relationships.
But old lessons can be hard to unlearn. And, if I’m honest, it is still hard for me to ask for help. Some may even say that I can be controlling because of my desire to do it all myself. There are also other unintended consequences. Being overly self-sufficient can keep me emotionally distant. It gets in the way of creative collaboration. And from being open to receiving. All things that I want to invite into my daily experience.